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Conscious Parenting

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Your Virgo Child

Your Virgo ChildThe planets in a birth chart represent the human needs and urges we all experience. Our Sun sign, and those of our children, represents the fundamental sense of self, as separate and distinct from others. Like the planets in our solar system all revolve around the Sun, it is where all the various parts of ourselves come together and form our identity. When we are taking care of our Suns’ needs we feel a sense of wholeness, like we know who we are. The Sun has ties to all five areas of health because without it, we run out of vitality and energy even to continue the process of living. By knowing your child’s chart, you can see how best to teach them health in all areas in their life. Let’s look at a practical breakdown of the ways a Virgo child sees the world and how best to help them.

This is the forth article in our series on Children’s Astrology. Virgo birthdays begin August 22nd at 10:27 pm PDT, and the 23rd at 1:27 am EDT. (If this description does not accurately describe your Virgo child, there may be strong modifiers coming from other planets or sensitive points in the Natal chart which can overshadow Virgo characteristics.)

VIRGO (August 22/23 – September 22)

Virgo babies seem like every mother’s dream of the perfect infant – they make little fuss as long as they are kept warm and dry and are fed regularly. They respond best in well-ordered surroundings and like to be kept on a regular schedule, especially with bathing. Little Virgos really like to be clean and tidy and when they reach the toddler stage they will amaze you with their eagerness to wash their hands, and take baths.

They can become upset when their hands or clothes are dirty and you might find them changing clothes often. They can also be fussy about their food and are not too happy about experimentation. They may not like it when one food touches another on their plate or if food appears slimy or strange. If a bug or fly touches their food, it could ruin the entire plate! Remember, these are subconscious drives for them, they are not doing it to intentionally annoy you. They are genuinely unnerved by these things. Your thoughtful responses can make the difference in their self-esteem.

In their quest for perfection, self-criticism is a major problem with this child, and parental criticism only makes things worse. They come into the world already feeling they aren’t good enough, so think twice before you disparage, for the Virgo youngster will take your words to heart and self-esteem will plummet. Virgo children feel loved when you let them help you.

They are also very affectionate and need to be touched. They will always feel reassured with big hugs or being ensconced in your arms for a story or just cuddle time.

Your Virgo child will quickly begin to help around the house, doing even boring chores, cheerfully and well. Great with detail, if given a shopping list, Virgo will make sure that every item bought matches the list exactly. Virgo’s have a lot of mental power, an ability to concentrate totally, and a retentive memory, often photographic. Rarely do you have to repeat an instruction for it to be carried out to the letter. If Virgos do not understand something, they will ask logical questions in a calm and quiet way.

These children are very good at taking care of others. They are happy when they can help another person. Nothing makes them happier than to take care of sick people and animals. Make sure they do not serve others to such an extent they give up their own needs. They will then become martyrs with their need to get approval and attention for helping others.

Often super-concerned about health, Virgo worries about sickness, sometimes to the point of hypochondria. Being taught the rules of good health and gently nursed when sick will ease this problem. Virgo also needs to know that health routines will be scrupulously followed and will insist they be performed in the right order. Being allowed to do personal hygienic tasks in a regular order helps give Virgo a sense of security where their health is concerned.

If you need details, ask a Virgo. Great at organizing anything, from their toys to the silverware on the table. No detail is missed. They can be compulsive and extreme in their behavior, however. You can often see very neat and tidy Virgos on one end of the scale and slobs on the other end. But even the slobs have organized some part of their lives. They love to alphabetize their books and toys and have slots and cubbies for their important objects. They tend to organize only those things that are important to them however, and leave the rest a mess.

My Virgo daughter, as a child, loved pens, pencils, markers, stickers, tablets and paper and had little boxes and cubbies for each, often with locks on them. These children prefer coloring in the lines perfectly rather than using their imagination and creating their own art. They often become excellent mathmatitions and accountants as they enjoy the structure and putting things in order.

When my Virgo Grandson was about five-years-old, I would sit outside with him and make roads with pennies I had saved in a huge jar. We also made parking garages so he could neatly park his matchbox cars. If a part of the penny road or garage would become crooked, he would stop to line up the pennies in a more perfect order. This is very typical play for a Virgo child. They love blocks and anything they can order.

Virgos can be great writers and communicators if they are not too shy or afraid. They will move forward on a project only if they feel they can succeed. If they are doubtful, they will drag their feet and maybe never get started. Quality of workmanship and technique are paramount as they are the perfectionists of the Zodiac. Being satisfied with the knowledge that the job has been done well, Virgo will work long and hard to meet its own high standards. Once it has done so, criticism from others is irrelevant.

Virgo’s motto, “Anything worth doing is worth doing well.” Consequently, Virgo’s work is far more careful and craftsmanlike than most. The downside of this quality is that Virgo may become disheartened when it fails to live up to its own high standards and gives up in dismay. Timely encouragement from you can turn the tide by showing Virgo that someone cares, for rarely does Virgo ask openly for help, preferring to struggle through and work out a problem without bothering others.

Excellent critical faculties (their ability to instantly see a flaw) make Virgo very hard on itself and on others as well. Self-critical in the quest for perfection, it can criticize others faults and be nit-picky too easily. This can cause problems in relationships. Virgo needs to learn that others don’t necessarily appreciate having their flaws pointed out.

Ego-building is difficult for Virgos, so mastering a skill is an excellent tool for self-appreciation. Already good at self-criticism and analysis, what Virgo actually needs is to be effective in the real world and to feel accepted and appreciated.

Though Virgo has high aesthetic standards, there must be a use for its work – art for art’s sake doesn’t interest this practical Sign, which always looks toward that which serves a purpose. Totally serious, Virgo aims at what will be effective, not what will be fun. They need to learn that “all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy,” or Jill a dull girl. Play that serves a learning purpose works well.

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Author: Wendy Cichetti