Feeling Sexy Again
Did you know that having sex four times a week is the best immunity booster available? Better than all the herbs, vitamins and sleep you can get. Yep, it’s true. Um, who on earth has time for all that sex beats me, but it’s something to strive for! HA HA. Yeah right. And if you are doing that, please write us and tell us how! We wanna know!
That being said, I have yet to meet a mom who hasn’t told me that she no longer feels sexy now that she’s a mom. Of course we’re all different and some women are able to snap back quickly, and that’s great! But I have found the majority of us seem to wonder where we went. I used to dance until the wee hours of the morning, and I felt so sexy! Where did that go?
Well, I had a baby. Now I’m in bed by 8:30 or 9:00. Yeah, that’s not a typo. I’m serious. If I see 10:00pm, it's a miracle. Suddenly sweats are fine, make up is optional and shaving my legs happens once a week, if that. Now, I’m sure that part of this is chemical, and part of it just the exhaustion of suddenly having another life depend upon me completely…but it’s not who I am!!
So here are a few things I’ve come up with that have made a huge difference for me. I offer them in the hope that someone else out there may find them useful. Use what works for you and leave what doesn’t. I hope some of this helps!!
Have you ever known a woman who wears designer jeans, but her underwear is held together by safety pins? Yeah, you know what I mean. The rest of the world deserves to see something great, but what’s on the inside, what’s closest to the best of the body doesn’t matter? Yikes. Just think about what that says about self-worth. I can't think about that and not turn it on myself. What am I wearing? Do I even know what you like to wear?
So here’s the fun experiment. Take just 45 minutes one day, and go find out what you like to wear "down there." This isn’t about your husband or partner, just about you. If you can afford what you find you like, buy it. If not, just take those few minutes in the store to really feel great. To know that you take care of you, yes the you downstairs. Remember that feeling. Remember that it’s wonderful to feel taken care of, and sexy and pretty! If you can do buy them, there is no need to show them off, no need to tell anyone or show anyone. This is a gift just for you. See? You’re not dead inside after all!
A few other fun ideas are below:
Take a hot bath once the kids are asleep. Take just 20 minutes to sit with yourself. Get some great bubble bath, there are some very inexpensive very lovely soaps out there. You deserve to have them for your body and your few minutes alone. Try to do this once a week. It’s only 20 minutes.
Shave your legs every time you shower. I know, I know….who has the time for that?! You do. Because you make time for yourself. Your body is worth it, you are worth it and it will remind you that you are sexy, you are worthy of sex, and you actually enjoy your own body.
Write a gratitude list about your body. How many things does your body do on a daily basis that you're grateful for? We tend to refer to our body by its parts, "my bum knee," "my big butt," "my stretch marks." But how many times a day do we thank it for what it does? Almost never.
Your body created your children, if you breast fed, it fed them! Do you love to dance? Thank your body for being able to move like it does. Are you able to go to work, do the laundry, the dishes, kiss your children, jog around the park, make cupcakes for a birthday party? Thank your body for giving you everything you need to do all those things.
I’ve found that those days when I take the time to thank my body for everything it does, I feel better. My touchy ankle (my left one), doesn’t bother me when I go jogging. I can breathe more easily, and I laugh more. Just a thought, but the more you love your body, the more you may love sharing it with your partner.
You may know what else there is for you to do that makes you feel sexy. What makes you feel like you’re taking care of yourself, that you deserve to feel good physically? These are some ideas, but only you know what you really need. Take five minutes a day to remind yourself that you’re with it. You’re worth having a fabulously sexy relationship with your partner, you deserve to have great underwear and you certainly deserve to take the time to shave your legs so you feel good about yourself all day.
Happy exploring and enjoy yourself!
Author: Sarah
