Jon and Kate's Announcement (cont)
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...that she may be thrilled by this arrangement, I don’t know. But what about the women who aren’t? Talk about a rock and a hard place. Not many moms would give up custody of their children, even knowing full well that it may mean men could be deterred from dating them. Is this another version of the many sacrifices we make as mothers?
I’ve been talking to many women about this and everyone seems to agree: Kate is destined to be alone with her children, and Jon is about to start his life anew, sow some wild oats and enjoy a new beginning. I’m sure few would disagree with that assessment (though I’m sure we’ll hear from those of you that don’t *wink). I've heard a lot of my friends who've been through divorce with children express that this is just the way it is. Fathers seem to move on faster and easier than mothers after divorce.
Of course, this theory could all be proven wrong after this announcement that is intended to "shock viewers," but I doubt it. And the way things are going for these two, we’ll know how this ends up going for the two of them, one way or the other as this will continue to unfold in front of our eyes whether TLC cancels the show or not. But it seems pretty clear that while Jon is off in his new apartment in Manhattan, Kate will remain in Pennsylvania, slowly moving on in the life she has been living. We can say that the way the chips fell is fair because of the way they each played the game, but it’s hard to justify in my head, either way.
One more note: Everything about this big announcement seems to be pointing towards divorce, and I just hate the precedent that this sets for all of us. When it gets really hard, call for divorce. You’ve all read in my other article how strongly I feel about saying "I’m sorry" and how one person can alter a relationship that's in trouble. That this has come to separate chairs, bitter fights over the phone, children who don’t have both parents around laughing, joking and supporting each other is the real announcement here. Our families are all we have, and when we break them, we all suffer — whether we get to start our lives over or not.
Author: Sarah
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